I'm obsessed!!!....help!!!

Aughhhh.....of the hundreds and hundreds (maybe even thousands) of photos i have here at home and at our family home in Quezon City, i can't find a single old photo of my dad as a young man before he got married!!! Sure, that was in the late 40's and early 50's ....but didn't they have cameras and photos then? I do have lots of old photos of my mom as a beautiful young woman....how come i don't have that of my dad?

Well, i guess it's not so much about the cost (it's not as if my dad couldn't afford it at that time!), as it is about priorities and the gender differences between men and women then.....and even, maybe, now.

At any time, women tend to publicize and preserve their looks and keep the proofs...more so when they are still unmarried, hence the reason why my mom had and still have many pics when she was still single. When women get married, they either use these pictures to show that they have not changed a bit even after having several children ....or use these pictures to make their children feel guilty about the sacrifices they have to endure by giving birth to them and raising them!

Single men, on the other hand (especially before instamatic cameras became available), do have their pictures taken when they were single but they don't tend to keep them....they give them away to friends and prospective girlfriends to increase the possibility of hooking a bride. This, i think, is what happened to my dad's single pics.... (after all, according to my mom & aunts, girls used to run after him!) However, when they do get married...that's when lots of their photos come out....this time initially with their new brides, and later with their children....(trophies perhaps?)

With the advent of digital cameras and the pc, things may not have changed much with single women....but with single men, they now have their pics taken, reproduce them as much as they want, give copies away, and still have copies of their own!

Be that as it may...i'm still obsessed with having an old pic of my dad as a single man! So, if by chance someone out there who's reading this has one or knows of anybody who has one (an old maid aunt perhaps?) please send me a copy....hehehehehe.